Combining personal vignettes with sage advice, Rob Davis demonstrates how the saying, What Goes Around, Comes Around, connects to other sources of wisdom, indeed to our everyday lives. As an adult involved in business, family, and sports, he came to recognize how true the saying is.
As a child, he often heard the expression, “As you sow, so shall you reap.” As an adult, he saw in numerous situations, including the experiences of friends, business partners, and in his own life, how the results we reap do come from the actions we sow.
It was some time until he realized that “sow” referred to the planting of seeds and had nothing to do with needles and thread. Also, that “reap” referred to how successful or disappointing the resulting harvest would be.
One example referred to the Ponzi scheme run by Bernie Madoff, the notorious financier who had built what appeared to be a thriving business until being exposed as a fraud who stole $millions, even from widows, orphans, and charities. Madoff is now in prison, most likely for the rest of his life.
Suppose Davis suggests, that early on, Madoff had called together those involved, and “fessed up?” While the consequences would have been painful, they would not likely have been anything as disastrous as the total ruin he and his family ended up experiencing.
The lesson here is that the longer one lets the deception continue, the more bottomless the pit they dig for themselves when the light finally catches up to them.
Much of the book’s theme rests on the significance of choice. When it appears that we have no other option in a given situation, the right choice probably seems like the most challenging thing to do. Here Davis cautions us to set our sights on the high road to avoid losing the chance for the most positive possible outcome.
Of course, not all choices are wrong, and not all comebacks are bad. A friend and running buddy described by Davis wrecked his car after having had a few too many drinks at a party. His driver’s license was suspended for three months, along with the requirement to attend weekly classes. Despite the problematic consequences, his friend turned this self-created slip into an example for his children, by accepting the full measure of his punishment and making the best of it.
Some of Davis’ stories are his own, such as the time he was kicking himself for not living up to his commitment to helping a friend who had organized a charitable fund-raising event. The result led to his creation of a new organization supported by alternative, investment industry people for the prevention and treatment of child abuse.
His book concludes with positive “Thoughts to Live By,” such as – I Choose Happiness, I Cooperate for the Greatest Good, I Take the High Road, and I Expect to Be Happy.
His philosophy, as expressed here, makes effective use of humor, humility, and a hefty helping of logic! Drawing insight from personal parables, Davis has constructed a manual of straightforward and sensible life skills designed for those who genuinely want “what goes around” to yield the best outcomes!